Developing the habit of blaming others seems to come natural. It is a weakness we all share occasionally. The patsies we use for our agonies can be ingenious and never ending. We have no problem blaming everyone when we encounter issues. If problems are created externally, they must be confronted in a way which brings resolution and progress without blame. If problems are created internally, the solution must come within, there can be no blame. Either way, we are in charge of determining how we ultimately deal with calamities. Blaming others will not resolve our problems.
Cultivating a habit to find excuses for low self esteem generates ineptness, perhaps because of faults we have adopted. Looking at our weaknesses and taking steps to eliminate them should be viewed as a project which cannot be taken personally. No one is worthless because they have taken steps to rise above their imperfections. Worthless is a term relegated to those who do nothing to perfect themselves. We all have a magnificent core, a special inside where purity is holy.
We are all born to find the magnificent core within us, when we reach for the holy spirit within our core, there should be no fault or no blame for others.