So, You Want To Hold A Grudge

Is a grudge worth the daily resentment that saps the life out of you? Take a minute to reflect on how short life is and how much happiness each day can bring. Want to be mad, withdrawn, or stressed out? Go ahead, hold a grudge and be miserable? It’s a choice with many side effects, whether a person is willing to admit it or not.

So you think holding a grudge gives you the advantage or evens a score. Ask yourself, “If I hold a grudge will it lift the burden of pain or disgust from my heart?” A reasonable person would say no, it does not lift any burdens or pain from my heart.

Spending some quality time on a plan to find common ground or to find a reasonable approach to reconcile a grudge often leads to compromise. A good concept is to present your concerns in a respectful, genuine manner to the offending party. Sometimes there are no perfect resolutions, but you may be able to live with agreeable variations of an imperfect outcome. If you are able to resolve a grudge, your heart will be clear and you will be free from the net that has been cast. You will feel relaxed, liberated from the daily torment that creates anger, hate, vindictiveness, and the wasteful use of time spent scheming to overpower someone by devious or spiteful means.

If attempts to resolve a grudge continues to fail, it’s time to make a decision. Do you want days, weeks, months of sulking, do you want to spend the rest of your life being perturbed, or do you want to forgive, forget, and move on? Is a grudge worth stewing over, or worth being left unresolved while festering more and more? Is it worth the daily resentment that saps the life out of you? Take a minute to reflect on how short life is and how much happiness each day can bring. Want to be mad, withdrawn, or stressed out? Go ahead, hold a grudge and be miserable? Holding a grudge is a choice with many side effects, whether a person is willing to admit it or not.

From years of personal experience, I will tell you the sooner a grudge can be resolved, the better. I’ve held onto grudges that have absolutely sapped the energy right out of me for days until I finally came to the realization, this can’t go on.  Resolve your grudge, believe me a clear heart makes for a happy life and that leads to the desire to keep a clear heart.

Author: Steve

I believe what is spoken from the heart and soul speaks volumes about who we really are. When our heart and soul becomes overpowered by ego, anger, deception and insincerity, we often speak foolishly. If actions and words are not from our innermost being we are not who we want to be. I believe in speaking from the heart and soul, I've found most folks prefer genuine people. I encourage you to listen to your heart and soul, to speak of the things that have brought light and wisdom into your life. The topics I present are heartfelt and come from years of experience with life, research and common sense. I extend my sincere wishes for the best to come your way. Thank you God for uplifting traits within us all that brings out the best of who we are. I look forward to your comments.

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