Don’t Underestimate Yourself

I imagine we all underestimate ourselves at times, I have. Most of us are programmed to believe we have a certain skill set that only allows us to progress to a certain point, after that we think it is impossible to seize golden opportunities because the cards are stacked against us. Someone is always holding us back, we think it’s impossible to obtain something that seems out of reach, or could it be we are holding ourselves back, underestimating ourselves? We take ourselves for granted, our failures become a force in our life that scatters mayhem on our self confidence and we begin to sell ourselves short.

My stories come straight from my own life experiences and this one is no exception, they are written by me, not a ghost writer. They are not fabricated, researched or copied. I believe it is worthwhile to tell about events and lessons in the life of an ordinary person that people can relate to and know they are not alone. If you take time to reflect on your life, you will find many events catalogued in your memory bank and many lessons that translate into who you are, where you came from and where you are headed. Some of our stories are suitable enough and meaningful enough to be shared with family and friends in order to preserve their righteous place in the lives of those who have an interest in us. We all have the ability to tell amazing stories that could help someone, stories that are funny and stories others can enjoy. Our adventures are registered in our heart, soul and mind. We write them in the book of life that is left in the annals of time after we pass on. Our stories are either adopted and carried on or they are dismissed as nonsense that no one cares about, either way it’s our life that wrote the story which left a mark somewhere, sometime, on someone. This is one of the stories I experienced and learned from, it’s also a story we have all observed and been involved with many times. I have underestimated myself occasionally and yet I have had amazing opportunities fulfilled that I thought were impossible to achieve. The lessons I learned are real and this story could be compiled by anyone who has underestimated their abilities and learned how to shore up their self confidence to seize golden opportunities.

I imagine we all underestimate ourselves at times, I have. Most of us are programmed to believe we have a certain skill set that only allows us to progress to a certain point, after that we think it is impossible to seize golden opportunities because the cards are stacked against us. Someone is always holding us back, we think it’s impossible to obtain something that seems out of reach, or could it be we are underestimating ourselves? We take ourselves for granted, our failures become a force in our life that scatters mayhem on our self confidence and we begin to sell ourselves short. Our lack of confidence makes us apprehensive to jump into something challenging like a golden opportunity for fear of failure or maybe ridicule.

I believe it’s unlikely that we could seize every opportunity which opens to us. However, the rare golden opportunities that can be life changing events are the ones we should be on the alert for and latch on to. These rare events lurk in the background waiting to be uncovered and sometimes they are in the present or foreground just waiting for us to take a swing at and hit or strike out. The opportunities that require our utmost confidence and determination are the ones that are the easiest to underestimate our ability to achieve. This happens because we doubt our perseverance, and ability.

There are always a few knuckleheads sneaking around who underestimate and undermine your potential. They make it their mission to deny the opportunity you so richly deserve. Go around them, prove them wrong, or resolve to plot a course of action that maintains your self confidence. Always conduct yourself with dignity, grace and poise regardless of missed opportunities or opportunities that were seized. How often have you missed golden opportunities that could have become magnificent achievements because you underestimated yourself or let someone cheapen your self worth? It happens more than it should in places where it shouldn’t. If you look back, it becomes clear to see how certain opportunities you were interested in unfolded. If you could have foreseen the chain of events that opened the door for someone else to grab the golden goose, you realize how easy it could have been to walk through the same door if you had not underestimated yourself.

I’ve been blessed with amazing moments of success from golden opportunities that I thought were not possible to bring to fruition. It all started with faith, self-confidence and not underestimating myself. Some of the golden opportunities that appeared on my horizon gave me a great sense of accomplishment when I conquered them. There have been times when respectable people offered opportunities that absolutely fit my goals in life. For every knucklehead you have to deal with there is a respectable person waiting to present a golden opportunity. I’ve found the more you underestimate yourself, the more opportunities pass you by. Self confidence drives a person to take on miraculous opportunities which will prove you have the fortitude to accomplish anything you set your mind to. Never underestimate yourself, you are capable of far more than you give yourself credit for.

Opportunities will come and go, be wise and choose the ones that lead to happiness and fulfillment. When an opportunity presents itself, one has to determine if they have the confidence to pursue the opportunity or will it be something you ignore? Has your lack of self confidence or circumstances manipulated by someone who seeks to undermine your confidence destroyed your motivation to move forward?  Call on your faith. Take things one step at a time, each step leads to another step which eventually leads to the fruition and realization of your opportunity. Never be deterred by failures because they become opportunities. Just like you, I learned that self confidence or lack thereof can make or break a golden opportunity.

I can recall times when an opportunity seemed impossible for me to accomplish. Only by the grace of God was I able to fulfill prospects that seemed very distant. In your extraordinary life, there are magnificent opportunities to be obtained that can bring happiness and fulfillment no matter how lofty the opportunity is. I offer this final bit of advice. If you’ve underestimated yourself and you are looking for mankind to prop up your self confidence, remember this,  “With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.” (Matthew 19:26) If you know this to be true, never underestimate yourself. How many people can relate to an opportunity that seemed impossible but it was brought to fruition by prayer? I can relate to many events in my life where my prayers were answered and opportunities were fulfilled. Never, ever underestimate yourself and what you can accomplish through Jesus Christ, our Lord. You have an option, believe me that option is the truest, the greatest and most reliable option available.

We began life depending on our parents and others, in the middle we are on our own making or breaking our dreams, our confidence gets shattered occasionally and reemerges stronger than ever, we negotiate our way through opportunities that define our story, in the end we are dependent again. Our story is written in the annals of time. Will it be the story of underestimating ourselves, missing opportunities, or will it be the story filled with golden opportunities we were destined to fulfill?

I hope this serves as motivation for you to be confident in the actions that are necessary to negotiate life. May your self confidence be mighty and your golden opportunities be many. Never underestimate yourself.

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