Don’t Underestimate Yourself

I imagine we all underestimate ourselves at times, I have. Most of us are programmed to believe we have a certain skill set that only allows us to progress to a certain point, after that we think it is impossible to seize golden opportunities because the cards are stacked against us. Someone is always holding us back, we think it’s impossible to obtain something that seems out of reach, or could it be we are holding ourselves back, underestimating ourselves? We take ourselves for granted, our failures become a force in our life that scatters mayhem on our self confidence and we begin to sell ourselves short.

My stories come straight from my own life experiences and this one is no exception, they are written by me, not a ghost writer. They are not fabricated, researched or copied. I believe it is worthwhile to tell about events and lessons in the life of an ordinary person that people can relate to and know they are not alone. If you take time to reflect on your life, you will find many events catalogued in your memory bank and many lessons that translate into who you are, where you came from and where you are headed. Some of our stories are suitable enough and meaningful enough to be shared with family and friends in order to preserve their righteous place in the lives of those who have an interest in us. We all have the ability to tell amazing stories that could help someone, stories that are funny and stories others can enjoy. Our adventures are registered in our heart, soul and mind. We write them in the book of life that is left in the annals of time after we pass on. Our stories are either adopted and carried on or they are dismissed as nonsense that no one cares about, either way it’s our life that wrote the story which left a mark somewhere, sometime, on someone. This is one of the stories I experienced and learned from, it’s also a story we have all observed and been involved with many times. I have underestimated myself occasionally and yet I have had amazing opportunities fulfilled that I thought were impossible to achieve. The lessons I learned are real and this story could be compiled by anyone who has underestimated their abilities and learned how to shore up their self confidence to seize golden opportunities.

I imagine we all underestimate ourselves at times, I have. Most of us are programmed to believe we have a certain skill set that only allows us to progress to a certain point, after that we think it is impossible to seize golden opportunities because the cards are stacked against us. Someone is always holding us back, we think it’s impossible to obtain something that seems out of reach, or could it be we are underestimating ourselves? We take ourselves for granted, our failures become a force in our life that scatters mayhem on our self confidence and we begin to sell ourselves short. Our lack of confidence makes us apprehensive to jump into something challenging like a golden opportunity for fear of failure or maybe ridicule.

I believe it’s unlikely that we could seize every opportunity which opens to us. However, the rare golden opportunities that can be life changing events are the ones we should be on the alert for and latch on to. These rare events lurk in the background waiting to be uncovered and sometimes they are in the present or foreground just waiting for us to take a swing at and hit or strike out. The opportunities that require our utmost confidence and determination are the ones that are the easiest to underestimate our ability to achieve. This happens because we doubt our perseverance, and ability.

There are always a few knuckleheads sneaking around who underestimate and undermine your potential. They make it their mission to deny the opportunity you so richly deserve. Go around them, prove them wrong, or resolve to plot a course of action that maintains your self confidence. Always conduct yourself with dignity, grace and poise regardless of missed opportunities or opportunities that were seized. How often have you missed golden opportunities that could have become magnificent achievements because you underestimated yourself or let someone cheapen your self worth? It happens more than it should in places where it shouldn’t. If you look back, it becomes clear to see how certain opportunities you were interested in unfolded. If you could have foreseen the chain of events that opened the door for someone else to grab the golden goose, you realize how easy it could have been to walk through the same door if you had not underestimated yourself.

I’ve been blessed with amazing moments of success from golden opportunities that I thought were not possible to bring to fruition. It all started with faith, self-confidence and not underestimating myself. Some of the golden opportunities that appeared on my horizon gave me a great sense of accomplishment when I conquered them. There have been times when respectable people offered opportunities that absolutely fit my goals in life. For every knucklehead you have to deal with there is a respectable person waiting to present a golden opportunity. I’ve found the more you underestimate yourself, the more opportunities pass you by. Self confidence drives a person to take on miraculous opportunities which will prove you have the fortitude to accomplish anything you set your mind to. Never underestimate yourself, you are capable of far more than you give yourself credit for.

Opportunities will come and go, be wise and choose the ones that lead to happiness and fulfillment. When an opportunity presents itself, one has to determine if they have the confidence to pursue the opportunity or will it be something you ignore? Has your lack of self confidence or circumstances manipulated by someone who seeks to undermine your confidence destroyed your motivation to move forward?  Call on your faith. Take things one step at a time, each step leads to another step which eventually leads to the fruition and realization of your opportunity. Never be deterred by failures because they become opportunities. Just like you, I learned that self confidence or lack thereof can make or break a golden opportunity.

I can recall times when an opportunity seemed impossible for me to accomplish. Only by the grace of God was I able to fulfill prospects that seemed very distant. In your extraordinary life, there are magnificent opportunities to be obtained that can bring happiness and fulfillment no matter how lofty the opportunity is. I offer this final bit of advice. If you’ve underestimated yourself and you are looking for mankind to prop up your self confidence, remember this,  “With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.” (Matthew 19:26) If you know this to be true, never underestimate yourself. How many people can relate to an opportunity that seemed impossible but it was brought to fruition by prayer? I can relate to many events in my life where my prayers were answered and opportunities were fulfilled. Never, ever underestimate yourself and what you can accomplish through Jesus Christ, our Lord. You have an option, believe me that option is the truest, the greatest and most reliable option available.

We began life depending on our parents and others, in the middle we are on our own making or breaking our dreams, our confidence gets shattered occasionally and reemerges stronger than ever, we negotiate our way through opportunities that define our story, in the end we are dependent again. Our story is written in the annals of time. Will it be the story of underestimating ourselves, missing opportunities, or will it be the story filled with golden opportunities we were destined to fulfill?

I hope this serves as motivation for you to be confident in the actions that are necessary to negotiate life. May your self confidence be mighty and your golden opportunities be many. Never underestimate yourself.

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Commitments Demand Dedication

A huge measure of character is how much others can count on us. Make your words count and your actions be true to your heart.

Deciding to to make a commitment is a very serious consideration because it becomes a measure of honor, trust, integrity, and what we are willing to give up in order to accomplish a covenant. A commitment is not to be taken lightly and by all means should be fulfilled if you pledged to do so. However unforeseen circumstances which are out of our control can prevent a follow through and provide an honorable release from a commitment. Conversely, unwarranted departures from commitments will eventually lead to the loss of respect from others.

How many times have you made a commitment and immediately known it was a mistake. Try to commit only to the things you truly care about because commitments require honorable words and actions. Honoring your word is hard work and finding a way to balance life while fulfilling a pledge can be challenging. Obligations require wise use of time and relentless effort to fulfill. Commitments must not be consented to on impulse, they must be thought out and based on honorable intentions and serious dedication regardless of what it takes to fulfill them.

Think about the consequences of a commitment or a request and gauge whether you are up to the task. Is the undertaking something you are prepared to follow through with regardless of the resources, time and effort required? Is the commitment deserving, and how will complying with this vow affect you personally, professionally, and spiritually? A hasty commitment will ultimately culminate in a critical mistake resulting in failure, hard feelings, or remorse. Never agree to something you are not equipped to do or to something that will dishonor your moral code. If there is any doubt or you are not ready to execute, there is little need to agree to something you are not prepared for.

When things fall apart it’s easy to renege, give up, or not pay due diligence to a covenant that was promised. The consequences of a failed commitment can be intense and the intended delivery may be out of reach due to conflicting ideals, procrastinating, or unforeseen personal events. Backing out of the responsibility to fulfill an obligation is often attributed to not taking time to understand the complexity and requirements necessary to carry out the mission. This failure can become the yardstick others use to measure our integrity. We all make errors in judgement when it comes to commitments, hopefully past mistakes and age brings the wisdom to make better decisions for each new commitment we consider agreeing to.

Commitments can be comforting, calming, scary, and fulfilling. They can initiate a new start in life and prevent unhealthy actions. In order for anyone to be taken seriously they must honor their commitments, otherwise they will not be considered trustworthy. Due diligence is required when making a commitment. Pros and cons must be contemplated and after careful consideration, an informed decision gives the best chance for a successful commitment. A huge measure of character is how much others can count on us. Make your words count and your actions be true to your heart.

The Despair Of Change

We owe it to ourself to  make a genuine attempt to navigate through changes in our life so we can enjoy peace and harmony in our heart and in the hearts of others.

The world we remember from our childhood days has faded into the past and the people we grew up with also changed based on the passage of time and experiences in their life. In fact, we are all changing at this very moment, possibly unaware of the transformation we are going through. Time marches onward with each new moment presenting something different from the last. Change can initially be quite a shock, there is no need to be bitter because it will only make things worse. We have a tendency to be stressed and agitated with any action that is considered out of the norm we are accustomed to. When we look at the present and assess its merit based on recollections of past, it can bring heartache and despair because things are not the same. Whether we like it or not, change will affect us at some point in time, it is part of the natural progression of all things. If we understand that change offers a new set of challenges to deal with, we can take that opportunity to adjust how we manage our life. We can implement a plan to move forward with a new purpose that helps us realize we can alter our life to meet the issues we face.

Change can cause us to become withdrawn, agitated, or remorseful. It’s normal to take a little time and do what we must to sort through our emotions, then we should move on with our life. It’s ok to look back and remember the past, but reformation will take us into the future and give us a great opportunity to face tomorrow with a new outlook. Sooner or later we have to deal with change or let it fester until it defeats us. To be defeated is to give up and that unrest will cause us discomfort. If we cannot adapt to change and are unwilling to take the necessary steps to move on, the world will pass us by, leaving us alone and bitter. In the midst of anxiety we should strive to find a benevolent reason to keep marching onward with resolution, determination, strength, and courage.

It’s easy to get stuck in a rut when change occurs. Spinning our wheels will not bring back the past nor will it transport us into the future. It will only stop our momentum, leaving us stuck on one moment in time that can thwart our desire to move on. Irritation and aggravation sets in and our efforts to make amends becomes very frustrating. We are destined to flow gently with developments in our life, just as gentle words and a smile can work wonders and miracles. The sooner we accept change, the sooner our life becomes free from ingrained ideals that robs our happiness, keeps us stirred up, and keeps us from engaging rationally with each other.

When the time comes that we no longer have the urgency to navigate through various changes in our life, we have lost our ability to maximize the present. If we are not in the present, we must be in the past because we have failed to put forth the effort to resolve issues that advance our understanding of developments in our life. Is it ideal to be agitated and unwilling to progress or compromise if change affects our happiness and way of life? I believe it’s better to find a way to maneuver with change for acceptable resolutions than to completely dismiss it. We must live our own life, make our own decisions, and in the end be judged for what we did with our life. We owe it to ourself to  make a genuine attempt to navigate through changes in our life so we can enjoy peace and harmony in our heart and in the hearts of others.

Fight Life Or Understand Life

Who’s responsibility is it to manage our own adult life, our children’s future, and our grandchildren’s future, because life will surely become what we have been taught.

Many people live life carrying out an endless fight with every circumstance they face.  That’s how they were taught. They are in a state of constant agitation, trying to force their will on others which they perceive threatens their sanity or way of life. There is no space in the mind for these people to think about alternative solutions or respect for others. Consumed with rage and blinded by the illusion that they must be doing the right thing, they carry on throughout life with destructive actions. There is a time and a place to fight depending on the circumstance, but constantly fighting every circumstance that exists is a losing proposition.

A rational person carries out life very different from the person who fights life. A rational person is able to understand circumstances for what they are, nothing more or nothing less than what is presented. That’s how they were taught.  They understand the ebb and flow of various events throughout their lives and adjust accordingly with determination to learn, to move forward with understanding, to be reasonable, to overcome challenges, and to display strength and courage. An understanding person faces life with compassion and the desire to make the best regardless of the circumstances.

Fighting life or understanding life are two crucial features that contribute to a persons disposition and probable ability to function favorably or unfavorably throughout life. Who’s responsibility is it to manage our own adult life, our children’s future, and our grandchildren’s future, because life will surely become what we have been taught, or what we ignore. We all own the responsibility for our actions and we own the responsibility for being the example that motivates the younger generation to prosper or fail.

Shysters and Snakes

Their conscience is clouded, their lies will stay with them, and they will have no peace. Yet, they can be redeemed.

Shysters and snakes love to charm and spin their tainted words of deceit with great care. They boast about forthcoming gains and concoct lies conceived in quick sand that is portrayed as solid ground. They insist everything will be ok, listen to what I say, there will be no consequences and just think of the advantages. Thats usually their line of smoke and mirrors, they take advantage of the weak and spin their influence to feed their greed and to take advantage of people. They believe they are clever, but have not spoken from the heart. Their conscience is clouded with lies and deceit which will stay with them throughout their life, they will have no peace. It may seem unlikely these snakes and shysters can be redeemed, yet they can through the grace of God.  The choice is theirs, yet they ignore the righteous path. The shyster and the snake are waiting for an opportunity to strike, keep your distance and move along. You will be glad you did.

Freinds

Problems are not expected to be solved by friends because their willingness and dedication to be by your side when you need them is the greatest comfort.

Are your friends courteous and devoted listeners to what you say? Are they considerate of your conversation and do they accept your life and significance? Are their eyes focused on you and do they understand your anxieties?  If you can answer yes to those questions, then your friends will be by your side when you need them. Problems are not expected to be solved by friends because their willingness and dedication to be by your side when you need them is the greatest comfort.

Fulfill Your Destiny

Keep your frame of mind positive, since your frame of mind becomes your future.

It only takes a minute to pause and think about your life. Resist the urge to carry out actions on impulse. Assemble your ideas with honorable thoughts, since ideas influence conversations. Deliver your conversations with a respectful tone, since your conversations influence your actions. Command your actions to be honorable, since your actions become your disposition. Make your disposition ethical,  since your disposition becomes your frame of mind. Keep your frame of mind positive, since your frame of mind becomes your future. Your future becomes your destiny. Your destiny becomes who your are. It’s a simple concept, yet we make our destiny complicated.

So, You Want To Hold A Grudge

Is a grudge worth the daily resentment that saps the life out of you? Take a minute to reflect on how short life is and how much happiness each day can bring. Want to be mad, withdrawn, or stressed out? Go ahead, hold a grudge and be miserable? It’s a choice with many side effects, whether a person is willing to admit it or not.

So you think holding a grudge gives you the advantage or evens a score. Ask yourself, “If I hold a grudge will it lift the burden of pain or disgust from my heart?” A reasonable person would say no, it does not lift any burdens or pain from my heart.

Spending some quality time on a plan to find common ground or to find a reasonable approach to reconcile a grudge often leads to compromise. A good concept is to present your concerns in a respectful, genuine manner to the offending party. Sometimes there are no perfect resolutions, but you may be able to live with agreeable variations of an imperfect outcome. If you are able to resolve a grudge, your heart will be clear and you will be free from the net that has been cast. You will feel relaxed, liberated from the daily torment that creates anger, hate, vindictiveness, and the wasteful use of time spent scheming to overpower someone by devious or spiteful means.

If attempts to resolve a grudge continues to fail, it’s time to make a decision. Do you want days, weeks, months of sulking, do you want to spend the rest of your life being perturbed, or do you want to forgive, forget, and move on? Is a grudge worth stewing over, or worth being left unresolved while festering more and more? Is it worth the daily resentment that saps the life out of you? Take a minute to reflect on how short life is and how much happiness each day can bring. Want to be mad, withdrawn, or stressed out? Go ahead, hold a grudge and be miserable? Holding a grudge is a choice with many side effects, whether a person is willing to admit it or not.

From years of personal experience, I will tell you the sooner a grudge can be resolved, the better. I’ve held onto grudges that have absolutely sapped the energy right out of me for days until I finally came to the realization, this can’t go on.  Resolve your grudge, believe me a clear heart makes for a happy life and that leads to the desire to keep a clear heart.

Part II, Go To The Source Of The Problem

Our problems are either solved through our own action, or they are left for someone else to solve, or they continue to eat away at our peace of mind for long periods of time. Eventually a lengthy problem can frustrate us so much that we are forced to come to some kind of reconciliation whether it is haphazard or resolute.

A brief intro about how I formulated this article. It came straight from the events in my own life with a touch of common sense and a bit of a knack for transferring thoughts into words. I was raised with diligent care given to the building blocks of life which led to a strong foundation in common sense. I was never the perfect student but I always had a good foundation to seek the right direction in life. The idea of problem resolution came to me through years of trial and error. Resolving problems was a learning process for me which required many adjustments and refinements until I came upon some principles that worked. I have used principles from five categories of problems many times and find they do result in resolution. A book could be written on this and indeed many have by distinguished individuals. This is my attempt to reduce the bulkiness of problem resolution to a brief article which captures the highlights of my thoughts. I realized sharing what has worked for me throughout the years would be a good opportunity to perhaps help others. If only one person reads this article and they resolve a problem based on my experience, it was worth the effort I put into this.

Our problems are either solved through our own action, or they are left for someone else to solve, or they continue to eat away at our peace of mind for long periods of time. Eventually a lengthy problem can frustrate us so much that we are forced to come to some kind of reconciliation whether it is haphazard or resolute. My belief is there are at least five categories of problems. I will briefly offer ideas for resolving problems related to each of the categories in the following order; resolved, unresolved, ignored, festering, and out of our control. All problems regardless of which category they fall in are only resloved by going to the source of the problem.

First resolving a problem takes effort, planning, and execution. There is a lot of information in this short paragraph on resolving a problem, it’s a lot to digest but a problem requires diverse and diligent thought to solve. If a problem is to be resolved, consider the following guidelines. Always go directly to the source of the problem even though it may be a difficult endeavor. The best way to resolve a problem is to identify it, confront it head on, determine the desired outcome, and determine what you can live with if you don’t achieve the desired outcome. Set up a direct line of communication to find common ground, resolutions are more apt to happen when there is common ground. Leave emotions out of the resolution, attack the problem never the person. Be prepared to steer away from possibilities which lead to conflict. The clearer the problem is defined, the better the outcome. Determine who is affected and stick to facts. Brainstorming will create many ideas for resolution. Review where and how the  problem occurred and what are all the possible scenarios that could derail a solution.  Are there barriers to a solution that must be overcome? It’s important to be honest and listen intently because if a problem is addressed in a haphazard manner, the deeper issue never surfaces, it just gets kicked down the road to pop up another day. Threats, blaming, getting even, or bringing up the past will rarely solve any problem. Remember what created the problem and how it was resolved so it does not reoccur in the future. Do not be afraid to ask for guidance from God.  “The plans of the diligent lead surely to advantage, but anyone who is hasty comes surely to poverty” (Proverbs 21:5)

The information in the previous paragraph addresses many things to think about when resolving a problem. Implementing those guidelines separately or in conjunction with multiple guidelines will give a person the best opportunity to resolve a problem  Do not get discouraged, some kind of resolution will occur. Perhaps it may not be entirely to your liking or on your time schedule, but it can be one you are able to live with.

The second type of problem is the unresolved problem. Even going directly to the source of an unresolved problem may not be productive but it can be worth a try. Some problems are destined for no resolution and remain unresolved due to stubbornness of the parties involved or the lack of our own motivation to solve them. If neither party is willing to reconcile, there are three choices.

A) Accept there are differences of opinion that are deeply ingrained and quickly move on. Some problems may not be resolved, but agreeing to disagree is an option. Try not to take problems personal, it’s easy to withdrawal when we have been attacked.  Attacks call for confidence in ourself and our abilities, our confidence must rule the day.

B)  Although one may feel like a problem cannot be resolved, never give up if it affects your happiness. Agreeing on another time to revisit a problem after a cooling off period can lead cooler heads to prevail. This cooling off period can be good when parties are not in the frame of mind to resolve a problem.  Stepping away to regroup before saying something one regrets is also a good strategy.  Agreeing to revisit a problem at a later date can also prompt one of the parties to take the initiative in the interim. Usually a clearer and more rational thought process is brought forth after a period of  time. Yet some problems are destined to be unresolved in a manner that meets our expected outcome.

C) If a problem cannot be resolved, enlisting a third party to negotiate a resolution is an option but it can potentially muddy the original dispute. Over time the problem can be sugar coated in fear of upsetting someone or it can be completely misconstrued and become more complicated. When third party resolutions are presented, they may be a little more abstract with a touch of ad lib which may not reflect the real guts of the original problem. Other times involving a third party brings a new perspective and resolution is obtained. Even in third party resolutions, the involvement of  the disputing parties is a requirement.  Just beware of third party resolutions because many times they have no ownership in the original problem or they look for some kind of gain from the resolution. Third parties are surely a necessity for problem resolution in legal matters, health matters, and any matter that would require expertise beyond your own capabilities. Even third parties sometimes struggle to find common ground to move forward. Some problems are destined for a lengthy resolution or compromise, some degree of acceptance should be considered so one can get on with their life.

The third type of problem is ignoring the problem. If a problem affects your happiness, it must be addressed. Ignoring a problem will never make it disappear and it will eat away at your peace of mind. Confront the problem quickly but with diligence. Don’t wait until the last minute to address an issue because it will be a haphazard resolution. Ignoring a problem only re-enforces the perpetrators will to continue to take advantage of a situation. Bad habits will definitely be developed by ignoring problems, the thought that someone else will solve them for us is often not true. The more we ignore problems the more we become disengaged with family, friends, society, and the world. Eventually an “I don’t care” attitude develops and that is the beginning of a lazy attitude toward life. Addressing a problem will bring about changes in our life that contribute to happiness, self motivation, unity, understanding, and compassion.

The fourth type of problem is the festering problem. The festering problem never gets resolved unless we face the source. Do not intentionally let a problem fester, it will only grow and get worse because it is not resolved. Letting a problem fester causes stress and anxiety. It will lead to bitterness, irritation, and will certainly lead to decay between the festering parties. These failures of resolution will take a toll on ones ability to function optimally on the job and in their personal life. The longer a problem festers, the less time we have for happiness and peace with the most important things in our life. Always address problems, it’s challenging at times due to the circumstances, but the payoff will put nagging issues to rest.

The fifth type of problem we struggle with is the problem which is completely out of our control. This is a problem where the source must be considered and is it possible to go to the source? These types of problems are usually created high up on the chain of command and pushed down to a level which impacts all of us. They are real problems and can be quite frustrating, but they are not worth consuming all of our time, energy, or our life. This type of problem will never just fade away, try to find a way to cope with issues which affect your happiness. The out of our control problem can be very difficult to resolve due to the chain of command. If one is unable to cope with the problem try to muster the self confidence to follow the proper channels to address the problem. Be prepared for a lengthy journey, stick with it, be patient, and be prepared for the outcome.

There are many avenues to take once we go to the source of the problem. With prudent thought, happiness and resolution can ensue. I hope you have found some helpful information in this article. These are common sense approaches which are known by all of us. In the heat of the moment, it’s easy to forget the basic steps we must take in order to find resolution to problems. I can personally attest that I have frozen more than once when presented with a shocking problem that I was not prepared for. Finding a way to resolution at that particular instant escaped my ability to logically respond. Only after regrouping was I able to respond and diligently resolve the problem. I suspect we all have been in similar situations.

If we have faith, life is easier. We know that God is there to take our hand and carry us through our burdens. God gives us strength to face our problems and to bring resolution, comfort, peace, and happiness.  I know you’ll find a way to solve your problems day by day.

Part One – Go To The Source Of The Problem

When a persons values and priorities are affected, there is a problem. It’s up to each individual to determine how important a problem is. If we are able to look beyond the moment and look at the big picture to determine if an issue is worth getting involved in, we are in a far better position to find resolution.

As promised a few days ago I have put together the first installment of an article titled, “Go To The Source Of The Problem”.  After delving into the topic of problems, I found a brief overview of problems was necessary before actually getting into “Go To The Source Of The Problem.  Problems as a topic is a huge bundle. Unbundling this required me to do a condensed two part series. I will  kick off Part One with a prelude to problems. This brief prelude to my article brings to light the fact that we all face problems each day. These problems are real, they must be addressed, and they are never ending.

Problems are guaranteed to pop up each day. They are all around us, some we can resolve and others are out of our control. Problems come in every form, each of us solves a myriad issues daily without much thought, they’re routine. The problems that make us think and occupy our mind are the ones that demand our time, energy, and resources to solve. These types of problems are the ones that can cause us a lot of duress.

We have all faced problems to some extent with many of the following issues: relationships, self image, being alone, health, work, personal business, stuck in a rut, financial matters,  difficult people, never enough time, being alone, depression, life is out of balance, lack of patience, electronic and technical overload, failure to listen, failure to communicate, responsibility without authority, parenting, people who work against you, and most anything which creates a dilemma for us or someone close to us. These daily problems stream their way into our life. They are the fuel that ignites our stressors which drains our happiness, peace, and energy.

The problem with problems is that they keep us from focusing on the joy of our life, family, and friends. There is nothing wrong with encountering problems, they are simply a fact of life. Remember, the same kind of thinking that created a problem will not work to solve the problem. It’s how we deal with problems that determines our happiness. Sometimes we create our own problems, that does not mean we are terribly flawed, it just means we are human.

We can look at someone else’s life and think wow, what a wonderful life they have, if only I had their life mine would be utopia. That is not true because even a person with a wonderful life encounters problems that can be overwhelming. Each person must manage their own life according to the problems they encounter.

Everyone has been introduced to problems at one time or another and life definitely has its ups and downs. It’s destined to be that way, that’s how we learn. Sometimes we are sad, other times we are elated, and once in a while we may find ourselves on an even keel where we enjoy windows in time when our problems seem to dwindle.

When a persons values and priorities are affected, there is a problem. It’s up to each individual to determine how important a problem is. If we are able to look beyond the moment and look at the big picture to determine if an issue is worth getting involved in, we are in a far better position to find resolution. Each day is another test and at the end of the day we must be able to reconcile our problems. When we are ready for bed, it’s nice to gently lie our head on the pillow and feel comfort and peace which comes from a clear mind.  Acknowledging and resolving our problems which robs our sleep will give us the best possible chance for sound rest. Oh to be free of problems that nagged us during the day.

Problems are either resolved, unresolved, ignored, or festering and that is the body of my next installment in a few days, Part Two of  “Go To The Source Of The Problem”.

May your blessings be many and your problems be few.