Don’t Underestimate Yourself

I imagine we all underestimate ourselves at times, I have. Most of us are programmed to believe we have a certain skill set that only allows us to progress to a certain point, after that we think it is impossible to seize golden opportunities because the cards are stacked against us. Someone is always holding us back, we think it’s impossible to obtain something that seems out of reach, or could it be we are holding ourselves back, underestimating ourselves? We take ourselves for granted, our failures become a force in our life that scatters mayhem on our self confidence and we begin to sell ourselves short.

My stories come straight from my own life experiences and this one is no exception, they are written by me, not a ghost writer. They are not fabricated, researched or copied. I believe it is worthwhile to tell about events and lessons in the life of an ordinary person that people can relate to and know they are not alone. If you take time to reflect on your life, you will find many events catalogued in your memory bank and many lessons that translate into who you are, where you came from and where you are headed. Some of our stories are suitable enough and meaningful enough to be shared with family and friends in order to preserve their righteous place in the lives of those who have an interest in us. We all have the ability to tell amazing stories that could help someone, stories that are funny and stories others can enjoy. Our adventures are registered in our heart, soul and mind. We write them in the book of life that is left in the annals of time after we pass on. Our stories are either adopted and carried on or they are dismissed as nonsense that no one cares about, either way it’s our life that wrote the story which left a mark somewhere, sometime, on someone. This is one of the stories I experienced and learned from, it’s also a story we have all observed and been involved with many times. I have underestimated myself occasionally and yet I have had amazing opportunities fulfilled that I thought were impossible to achieve. The lessons I learned are real and this story could be compiled by anyone who has underestimated their abilities and learned how to shore up their self confidence to seize golden opportunities.

I imagine we all underestimate ourselves at times, I have. Most of us are programmed to believe we have a certain skill set that only allows us to progress to a certain point, after that we think it is impossible to seize golden opportunities because the cards are stacked against us. Someone is always holding us back, we think it’s impossible to obtain something that seems out of reach, or could it be we are underestimating ourselves? We take ourselves for granted, our failures become a force in our life that scatters mayhem on our self confidence and we begin to sell ourselves short. Our lack of confidence makes us apprehensive to jump into something challenging like a golden opportunity, for fear of failure or maybe ridicule.

I believe it’s unlikely that we could seize every opportunity which opens to us. However, the rare golden opportunities that can be life changing events are the ones we should be on the alert for and latch on to. These rare events lurk in the background waiting to be uncovered and sometimes they are in the present or foreground just waiting for us to take a swing at and hit or strike out. The opportunities that require our utmost confidence and determination are the ones that are the easiest to underestimate our ability to achieve. This happens because we doubt our perseverance, and ability.

There are always a few knuckleheads sneaking around who underestimate and undermine your potential. They make it their mission to deny the opportunity you so richly deserve. Go around them, prove them wrong, or resolve to plot a course of action that maintains your self confidence. Always conduct yourself with dignity, grace and poise regardless of missed opportunities or opportunities that were seized. How often have you missed golden opportunities that could have become magnificent achievements because you underestimated yourself or let someone cheapen your self worth? It happens more than it should in places where it shouldn’t. If you look back, it becomes clear to see how certain opportunities you were interested in unfolded. If you could have foreseen the chain of events that opened the door for someone else to grab the golden goose, you realize how easy it could have been to walk through the same door if you had not underestimated yourself.

I’ve been blessed with amazing moments of success from golden opportunities that I thought were not possible to bring to fruition. It all started with faith, self-confidence and not underestimating myself. Some of the golden opportunities that appeared on my horizon gave me a great sense of accomplishment when I conquered them. There has been times when respectable people offered opportunities that absolutely fit my goals in life. For every knucklehead you have to deal with there is a respectable person waiting to present a golden opportunity. I’ve found the more you underestimate yourself, the more opportunities pass you by. Self confidence drives a person to take on miraculous opportunities which will prove you have the fortitude to accomplish anything you set your mind to. Never underestimate yourself, you are capable of far more than you give yourself credit for.

Opportunities will come and go, be wise and choose the ones that lead to happiness and fulfillment. When an opportunity presents itself, one has to determine if they have the confidence to pursue the opportunity or will it be something you ignore? Has your lack of self confidence or circumstances manipulated by someone who seeks to undermine your confidence destroyed your motivation to move forward?  Call on your faith. Take things one step at a time, each step leads to another step which eventually leads to the fruition and realization of your opportunity. Never be deterred by failures because they become opportunities. Just like you, I learned that self confidence or lack thereof can make or break a golden opportunity.

I can recall times when an opportunity seemed impossible for me to accomplish. Only by the grace of God was I able to fulfill prospects that seemed very distant. In your extraordinary life, there are magnificent opportunities to be obtained that can bring happiness and fulfillment no matter how lofty the opportunity is. I offer this final bit of advice. If you’ve underestimated yourself and you are looking for mankind to prop up your self confidence, remember this,  “With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.” (Matthew 19:26) If you know this to be true, never underestimate yourself. How many people can relate to an opportunity that seemed impossible but it was brought to fruition by prayer? I can relate to many events in my life where my prayers were answered and opportunities were fulfilled. Never, ever underestimate yourself and what you can accomplish through Jesus Christ, our Lord. You have an option, believe me that option is the truest, the greatest and most reliable option available.

We began life depending on our parents and others, in the middle we are on our own making or breaking our dreams, our confidence gets shattered occasionally and reemerges stronger than ever, we negotiate our way through opportunities that define our story, in the end we are dependent again. Our story is written in the annals of time. Will it be the story of underestimating ourselves, missing opportunities, or will it be the story filled with golden opportunities we were destined to fulfill?

I hope this serves as motivation for you to be confident in the actions that are necessary to negotiate life. May your self confidence be mighty and your golden opportunities be many. Never underestimate yourself.

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Commitments Demand Dedication

A huge measure of character is how much others can count on us. Make your words count and your actions be true to your heart.

Deciding to to make a commitment is a very serious consideration because it becomes a measure of honor, trust, integrity, and what we are willing to give up in order to accomplish a covenant. A commitment is not to be taken lightly and by all means should be fulfilled if you pledged to do so. However unforeseen circumstances which are out of our control can prevent a follow through and provide an honorable release from a commitment. Conversely, unwarranted departures from commitments will eventually lead to the loss of respect from others.

How many times have you made a commitment and immediately known it was a mistake. Try to commit only to the things you truly care about because commitments require honorable words and actions. Honoring your word is hard work and finding a way to balance life while fulfilling a pledge can be challenging. Obligations require wise use of time and relentless effort to fulfill. Commitments must not be consented to on impulse, they must be thought out and based on honorable intentions and serious dedication regardless of what it takes to fulfill them.

Think about the consequences of a commitment or a request and gauge whether you are up to the task. Is the undertaking something you are prepared to follow through with regardless of the resources, time and effort required? Is the commitment deserving, and how will complying with this vow affect you personally, professionally, and spiritually? A hasty commitment will ultimately culminate in a critical mistake resulting in failure, hard feelings, or remorse. Never agree to something you are not equipped to do or to something that will dishonor your moral code. If there is any doubt or you are not ready to execute, there is little need to agree to something you are not prepared for.

When things fall apart it’s easy to renege, give up, or not pay due diligence to a covenant that was promised. The consequences of a failed commitment can be intense and the intended delivery may be out of reach due to conflicting ideals, procrastinating, or unforeseen personal events. Backing out of the responsibility to fulfill an obligation is often attributed to not taking time to understand the complexity and requirements necessary to carry out the mission. This failure can become the yardstick others use to measure our integrity. We all make errors in judgement when it comes to commitments, hopefully past mistakes and age brings the wisdom to make better decisions for each new commitment we consider agreeing to.

Commitments can be comforting, calming, scary, and fulfilling. They can initiate a new start in life and prevent unhealthy actions. In order for anyone to be taken seriously they must honor their commitments, otherwise they will not be considered trustworthy. Due diligence is required when making a commitment. Pros and cons must be contemplated and after careful consideration, an informed decision gives the best chance for a successful commitment. A huge measure of character is how much others can count on us. Make your words count and your actions be true to your heart.

The Despair Of Change

We owe it to ourself to  make a genuine attempt to navigate through changes in our life so we can enjoy peace and harmony in our heart and in the hearts of others.

The world we remember from our childhood days has faded into the past and the people we grew up with also changed based on the passage of time and experiences in their life. In fact, we are all changing at this very moment, possibly unaware of the transformation we are going through. Time marches onward with each new moment presenting something different from the last. Change can initially be quite a shock, there is no need to be bitter because it will only make things worse. We have a tendency to be stressed and agitated with any action that is considered out of the norm we are accustomed to. When we look at the present and assess its merit based on recollections of past, it can bring heartache and despair because things are not the same. Whether we like it or not, change will affect us at some point in time, it is part of the natural progression of all things. If we understand that change offers a new set of challenges to deal with, we can take that opportunity to adjust how we manage our life. We can implement a plan to move forward with a new purpose that helps us realize we can alter our life to meet the issues we face.

Change can cause us to become withdrawn, agitated, or remorseful. It’s normal to take a little time and do what we must to sort through our emotions, then we should move on with our life. It’s ok to look back and remember the past, but reformation will take us into the future and give us a great opportunity to face tomorrow with a new outlook. Sooner or later we have to deal with change or let it fester until it defeats us. To be defeated is to give up and that unrest will cause us discomfort. If we cannot adapt to change and are unwilling to take the necessary steps to move on, the world will pass us by, leaving us alone and bitter. In the midst of anxiety we should strive to find a benevolent reason to keep marching onward with resolution, determination, strength, and courage.

It’s easy to get stuck in a rut when change occurs. Spinning our wheels will not bring back the past nor will it transport us into the future. It will only stop our momentum, leaving us stuck on one moment in time that can thwart our desire to move on. Irritation and aggravation sets in and our efforts to make amends becomes very frustrating. We are destined to flow gently with developments in our life, just as gentle words and a smile can work wonders and miracles. The sooner we accept change, the sooner our life becomes free from ingrained ideals that robs our happiness, keeps us stirred up, and keeps us from engaging rationally with each other.

When the time comes that we no longer have the urgency to navigate through various changes in our life, we have lost our ability to maximize the present. If we are not in the present, we must be in the past because we have failed to put forth the effort to resolve issues that advance our understanding of developments in our life. Is it ideal to be agitated and unwilling to progress or compromise if change affects our happiness and way of life? I believe it’s better to find a way to maneuver with change for acceptable resolutions than to completely dismiss it. We must live our own life, make our own decisions, and in the end be judged for what we did with our life. We owe it to ourself to  make a genuine attempt to navigate through changes in our life so we can enjoy peace and harmony in our heart and in the hearts of others.

Fight Life Or Understand Life

Who’s responsibility is it to manage our own adult life, our children’s future, and our grandchildren’s future, because life will surely become what we have been taught.

Many people live life carrying out an endless fight with every circumstance they face.  That’s how they were taught. They are in a state of constant agitation, trying to force their will on others which they perceive threatens their sanity or way of life. There is no space in the mind for these people to think about alternative solutions or respect for others. Consumed with rage and blinded by the illusion that they must be doing the right thing, they carry on throughout life with destructive actions. There is a time and a place to fight depending on the circumstance, but constantly fighting every circumstance that exists is a losing proposition.

A rational person carries out life very different from the person who fights life. A rational person is able to understand circumstances for what they are, nothing more or nothing less than what is presented. That’s how they were taught.  They understand the ebb and flow of various events throughout their lives and adjust accordingly with determination to learn, to move forward with understanding, to be reasonable, to overcome challenges, and to display strength and courage. An understanding person faces life with compassion and the desire to make the best regardless of the circumstances.

Fighting life or understanding life are two crucial features that contribute to a persons disposition and probable ability to function favorably or unfavorably throughout life. Who’s responsibility is it to manage our own adult life, our children’s future, and our grandchildren’s future, because life will surely become what we have been taught, or what we ignore. We all own the responsibility for our actions and we own the responsibility for being the example that motivates the younger generation to prosper or fail.

Shysters and Snakes

Their conscience is clouded, their lies will stay with them, and they will have no peace. Yet, they can be redeemed.

Shysters and snakes love to charm and spin their tainted words of deceit with great care. They boast about forthcoming gains and concoct lies conceived in quick sand that is portrayed as solid ground. They insist everything will be ok, listen to what I say, there will be no consequences and just think of the advantages. Thats usually their line of smoke and mirrors, they take advantage of the weak and spin their influence to feed their greed and to take advantage of people. They believe they are clever, but have not spoken from the heart. Their conscience is clouded with lies and deceit which will stay with them throughout their life, they will have no peace. It may seem unlikely these snakes and shysters can be redeemed, yet they can through the grace of God.  The choice is theirs, yet they ignore the righteous path. The shyster and the snake are waiting for an opportunity to strike, keep your distance and move along. You will be glad you did.

Freinds

Problems are not expected to be solved by friends because their willingness and dedication to be by your side when you need them is the greatest comfort.

Are your friends courteous and devoted listeners to what you say? Are they considerate of your conversation and do they accept your life and significance? Are their eyes focused on you and do they understand your anxieties?  If you can answer yes to those questions, then your friends will be by your side when you need them. Problems are not expected to be solved by friends because their willingness and dedication to be by your side when you need them is the greatest comfort.

Fulfill Your Destiny

Keep your frame of mind positive, since your frame of mind becomes your future.

It only takes a minute to pause and think about your life. Resist the urge to carry out actions on impulse. Assemble your ideas with honorable thoughts, since ideas influence conversations. Deliver your conversations with a respectful tone, since your conversations influence your actions. Command your actions to be honorable, since your actions become your disposition. Make your disposition ethical,  since your disposition becomes your frame of mind. Keep your frame of mind positive, since your frame of mind becomes your future. Your future becomes your destiny. Your destiny becomes who your are. It’s a simple concept, yet we make our destiny complicated.